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Oven Fried Southern Hot Honey Chicken.

Definitely a keeper. Oh my goodness, this chicken was so so yummy and came together very quick for a great weeknight meal. Made this tonight and everyone loved it! I loved that I could prep it in the morning and it was very quick at dinner time. Chicken was very crispy and the sauce was so good, sweet and spicy! This one is a keeper! This was so easy and so delicious! Even though it has buttermilk and a lot of butter in the sauce, it still seems healthier than actual fried chicken.

Definitely going to make this again! Hi Tieghan! Loved the corn flake crust and damn that sauce was sooo spicy and soooo delicious! So it was the perfect excuse to make both. Thanks for the recipe. Quick question — should the butter be salted or unsalted?! I usually use salted butter, but unsalted works fine too with a pinch of salt. Just made these using leftover cornflakes from your Special K bars , and oh my goodness! They are SO good! I subbed buttermilk for plain Kefir and it totally worked. Seriously though, thank you for gracing the world with such deliciousness.

Awh you are too sweet!! Thank you so much, I am so glad you loved this recipe and hope you continue to enjoy others! I made this recipe last night — my boyfriend and I both loved it! He said it is the new gold standard he will use to compare all other oven fried chicken. Do you think I had too much buttermilk on the chicken when I dredged it? It is important to let most of the buttermilk drip off before breading, so that might have been the reason the bottom feel off. Hope this helps! Glad you love this recipe! I cut the cayenne down to 1 tsp and it was perfect for us. This is going into my rotation.

While I was checking out the Strawberry Shortcakes I spied this recipe and had to make it too. The whole family loved it. Especially the picky one! I can confirm it was just as wonderful the next day for lunch too! I served with herbed baby potatoes and roasted corn on the cob. Love LOVE your recipes! Hi Denise! I am so glad you loved this recipe and I hope you continue to enjoy others!

Made this tonight. And it was such a huge succes. Made the sauce a little less spicy. Also made oven roast potatoes tossed with homemade dry Ranch dressing mix and a coleslaw. And your honey-version is so much more delicious than with dark suger. I was stubborn and made it first with dark sugar. Tossed it and made your version with the honey. Thank you for this great recipe! Hi Tessa! I am so glad this recipe turned out amazing for you and you all enjoyed it!

It is SO good. Good amount of spice but perfectly balanced with the sweet of the honey. A great amount of crunch from the breading even after smothering it in the sauce. Thank you thank you thank you. I made this the other night and it was a HUGE hit with my family! He absolutely loved it and so did I! BTW I used tenders.

Thank you!! I made this last night and I loved it! I prepped the boneless skinless chicken thighs in the buttermilk and salt the night before. When I got home from work, I made the corn flake coating- tried using rolling pin on a zip locked bag but ended up throwing it all into a food processor- quicker and easier.

BTW I probably used cups of uncrushed corn flakes to equal 3 cups of crushed corn flakes. The coating adhered to the chicken really well but I did not brush on the oil because I think it would have brushed off the coating, so I just lightly drizzled oil over chicken. Then, a friend stopped by! So, I never made the Hot Honey Sauce and it was still great! Tonight when I reheated the leftovers, I used the oven so it would still have the crispy crust, yum!

I am so glad you loved this! Thank you Melissa! Oh my god. I just made this in the air fryer and it was amazing! The dish was very good but I had the same problem another user mentioned; all the breading fell off the larger pieces! Hi Maia! I am so sorry that happened!

I hope this turns out better next time! Please let me know if you have any questions! Made this last night and it was off the chain good!!! This recipe is definitely a keeper. Thank you for sharing this recipe. Made this Memorial Day Weekend! It was absolutely delicious. I used a mix of boneless, skinless breasts and thigh—the thighs worked out much better for some reason, the cornflakes stuck better. The sauce is fabulous and the cornflake crunch delightful. Just made this and it was awesome! Thanks for a delicious new chicken recipe! I made this for dinner last night and it was a huge hit with my husband and kids!

I did add smoked chipotle powder to my honey sauce because I like a bit of kick. What little leftovers are left are hidden in the fridge to make sure no one gets to them before me. The taste was very good. But how do I keep the crust from coming off? It was mostly likely due to all the changes made in the recipe. If I had to guess the issue was most likely the greek yogurt. I bet it stuck too much to the chicken and cause the cereal to slip off.

So good…… Makes You want to slap your mama!! This was amazing. I served it with cornbread and slaw. Looking forward to the leftovers! I made this for dinner tonight. So yummy. We are puttting this in our regular rotation. Easy, yummy. I served it with some coleslaw.

Thank you for another winner, winner chicken dinner! We love your recipes!!! I said I would try this recipe out once I got all settled into my new place…. I was missing a few ingredients such as the corn flakes, substituted with bread crumbs and seasonings for the hot honey sauce…. Paired it with savory mashed sweet potatoes and collard greens. Was planning on making dinner for myself and had a few friends come over that night instead— everybody cleared their plates and went as far as to demand the recipe from me.

I just made this June 3 for dinner and it was fabulous. I cooked the chicken on my gas grill using a flat cast iron skillet. It came out great, I loved all the flavors from the cereal coating to the butter honey sauce. Excellent recipe! The flavor of this chicken is delicious! I found it best to wait until the chicken was done or basically done before starting the sauce.

When the sauce sat for a couple minutes, the seasoning separated from the butter leaving a weird paste consistency on the bottom of the pan. I had to make the sauce twice to pour it over immediately while the butter and seasonings were still coalesced. I would probably bake on a wire rack next time too to make sure both sides of the chicken stay crispy.

I will be making again. Would olive oil spray work instead of olive oil? Yes, olive oil spray will be great. Made this yesterday for dinner. My husband Les asked me to make extra, as it reminded him of our time in Nashville when we are at Princes Hot Chicken a real Nashville experience. Your recipe is easy to make and delicious. Thanks again Tieghan for another fantastic meal. This was so good and so easy to whip up! One question — how would you suggest crumbling the corn flakes?

I tried to do it by hand but they were still too big. Would a food processor make them too fine? A food processor works great to finely crush the cornflakes. So glad you love this recipe! This looks so good! Sorry if someone already asked this, but what sides would you serve with thme chicken? Hi Brittany! I love to match this recipe with potatoes, potato salad, roasted vegetables or jasmine rice! I hope you love it! I chilled on the cayenne quite a bit for my babies, but I think I would have enjoyed it at full power too.

Good job! I made this for dinner tonight and it was delicious! I only used 1 tsp of cayenne pepper in the hot honey in order to tone things down a bit and it was a perfect spice level for me. This chicken is some of, if not the, best I have ever had!!! Thanks for an amazing recipe!

All of the flavors worked so well together and I loved the flavor and crispiness minus all of the oil. I have a question though, would the outcome change if I used a milk alternative instead of buttermilk? What does the buttermilk add? Hey Lilly! So glad you enjoyed this recipe so much! You can use a beaten egg to coat the chicken as well or regular milk. The outcome should not be too different. Please let me know if you have any other questions. I recommend baking the chicken and then warming before serving.

I have not tested breading and then baking. I worry the coating could become a little soggy while it sits. Please me know if you have any other questions. Hope you love this recipe. Will definitely give it a try Looks so delicious. The chicken turned out fine, but none of the cornflakes stuck to the chicken and the majority of them got soggy, not crispy in the oven.. I used boneless, skinless thighs. The recipe was simple, and the outcome was incredible. I think my husband was really taken by it, and I absolutely love the hot honey butter sauce, but he found it too spicy…..

Thank you and this will now be a staple in my cooking repertoire. I make it GF by omitting the flour and it comes out great. I also double the sauce because — I mean, goes without saying. That sauce is incredible!! Thanks for a wonderful recipe!! How do you think this would hold up with bone-in chicken wings and drumsticks? I think it should work, but just adjust the cooking time to insure the chicken is cooked through.

I will be making it agajn next week. Any suggestions? Hi Susan! Made this for dinner tonight….. Easy, quick, delicious!! Hubby loved it. Now my favorite way to do chicken in the oven. Thanks again for a winner! Sure, I would use vegetable or olive oil. This was excellent. Just excellent. Thank you for developing the most amazing and versatile recipes out there, and making me look like a star at the dinner table! One question though — i baked on foil wrapped cookie sheet and put a little canola oil on the sheet.

Any advice on how to best avoid this? I recommend lining a baking sheet with parchment paper. I find it works much better than foil and nothing really sticks to the parchment. I hope you love this recipe. Thanks so much! It was fantastic and so delicious. My boyfriend loved it too. Thanks for the great recipe. I was so excited to make this recipe as I am with any of your recipes.

Unfortunately I am so disappointed that I have to post. The chicken was not crispy at all. The sauce was OK. I love spicy but the combination of spices was overwhelming and the honey was lost. Hi KJ! I am so sorry that this recipe did not work out for you! I hope you still try some other recipes on my blog and enjoy them!

My 3 yo niece helped me make this recipe and she had so much fun dredging the chicken. It got a little messy but was fun to make with her. However, I think 3 tsp cayenne is too much — even for people who like a lot of heat. I would start with 1 tsp next time. Making this tonight with three large chicken breasts and was wondering if you had cut the breasts you used into smaller pieces?

Sooooo gooood! Even my 4year old thought so minus the delicious spicy honey of course but the child who has to be cajoled into eating his dinner had two helpings at dinner two nights in a row and ate it for lunch! May make our own chicken fingers this way too since it was such a hit. Keep up the great work and lovely posts! So delicious!! I made as directed but toned down the heat a little bit. Next time I will just make as directed. I agree on doubling the sauce for sure!! Forgot to rate it!!!! Can you use regular white flour instead of wheat flour? Hey Janice! Yes, you can use white flour, that will be great!

FInally had a chance to try this tonight. Used chicken tenders and 1 tsp of the cayenne. Absolutely fantastic! Everyone loved it. Tonight is the 3rd time I have made this wonderful dish in the last 3 months. Made as is. Truly Delish!! I made this last night for dinner and it was fantastic. Rave reviews from all. I made this tonight with blue cheese mashed potatoes and collard greens, my husband loved it and so did I! I had my doubts as I was making this…BUT it was soooo good! My family went nuts over it. I will make this again and again. Great to just have it in fridge as hungry kids are running in and out all the time.

I do have to say I used way more cornflake mix then it called for? But no big deal, I just made more to cover all the chicken. Hi Bernadette! I am so glad you loved this recipe and it turned out so well for you! My chicken came out great but a good amount of the breading came off! Any suggestions on getting the breading to stick? Make sure you are really allowing the buttermilk to drip off the chicken before coating. If you use to much milk, the breading will fall off. So glad you love this recipe. Thanks so much!! I have made this recipe twice now and love it.

Watch your chicken closely for doneness so it will not be dry. Also 1 teaspoon of cayenne is enough for me, 2 is over the top! Thank you for your beautiful recipes and photography. Made this tonight and it was absolutely delicious! Hi1 White flour will be just fine. Thanks so much and happy Holidays!! Loved how the sweetness of the honey balanced with the heat of the cayenne. Thank you so much for sharing this with the world!

Hi, I am going to make this tonight. It looks delectable! My comment is that I would like to see the reviews of people who have actually made your recipes first in the comment section. I have always found them helpful when preparing my recipes that I get on blogs and other websites. Thanks so much for the great recipes! I am sure both will be just fine! Question about this one: I plan to substitute panko for the cornflakes — would you make any changes to the method or anything if I do that?

Love from your new fan Sarah. We loved this! Quick and easy and so tasty! That looks delicious! Comfort food recipes will always find a way to me eventually, I love trying new things. This was an amazing recipe! My boyfriend and I both loved it and it had just the right amount of heat! Thank you for another winner winner chicken dinner! Made this tonight and it was delicious. I did have one problem- the crunchy coating did not adhere well to the skinless chicken breast.

When I went to turn the chicken over, big pieces of it fell off. Any suggestions for when I make it again… in the very near future? Hey Deb! I would make sure to really let the excess buttermilk drip off the chicken before coating. Too much milk can cause the coating to fall off. That sauce!!!!! OMG…it is so good….. Just made this last night! The chicken was fabulous, and turned out perfectly moist. The sauce was solid, but not at all what I expected. THIS chicken!

My family now has a new favorite! I have made this one chicken three times and pork chops twice in the past month. My family is obsessed! Do you just keep in the refrigerator for a few days or re-use it in a different recipe. HI Caroline, the chicken should be left whole. This looks amazing! Any advice on a vegetarian version? Hey Sophia! Many have made this with cauliflower and really enjoyed it. Sounds like such a great idea! Hey Marissa! I am sure this will be great minus the cayenne and perfect for kids!

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It was fantastic! His will be in regular roatstion for picnics and potlucks. Thank you!!!! One word: Yummo! Made this tonight and it was so good! Will definitely be making I again!! Sounds amazing! Do you find it gets soggy with that? I hope you love this recipe! Wow, wow, wow!! Just made these tonight and they far surpassed my expectations.

I thought the picture looked delicious and the recipe sounded pretty easy, but I rarely get a good result with oven baked chicken. This recipe changed my mind. The chicken was incredibly tender with a delicate crunchy coating. I then adjusted the cayenne pepper. Fantastic recipe and husband loved it! Served with a creamy lime dressing coleslaw and fries. This chicken is fantastic. The flavor is so powerful and serves perfect over some curly sweet potatoe fries. With extra sauce drizzled on top of course. Thanks for all your wonderful recipes.

I try to make one a week. Spicy Ramon bowl is on this weekends menu:. Any suggestions on making this with chicken tenders. Was thinking of doing for the big game tomorrow! Hey Tara! Chicken tenders will work great! No adjustments need to be made. Made this last night for the game as sliders. Toasted slider buns, added some thyme mayo and pickles—delicious!!!

A keeper! So yummy!! I only used 1 tsp of cayenne, did not add any chili powder and it was the perfect amount of heat for us. The only thing I will do differently next time is crunch up the cornflakes a little smaller. Thank you for a wonderful recipe! I am new to posting on your site but follow you. One of the best recipes I have made in years! This chicken was SO good and really simple to make. I used a mixture of breasts and drumsticks. I opted for the 3 teaspoons of cayenne to the sauce, which I would assume is why it was so spicy, because the sauce had a big kick to it.

Despite the heat, it was so good and we ate leftovers for days. HBH strikes again with amazingness! Made this tonight and the flavors were SOOO gooood! Should I have maybe used foil instead of parchment? Any suggestions on how to keep the chicken crispy on both sides through baking? Will definitely be making this again! HI Erin! It is important to let most of the buttermilk drip off before breading, so that might have been the reason the chicken lost crispiness. Made this for dinner tonight and it came out great!

I went with the 2 tsp of cayenne rather than 3, doubled the honey and added an extra 2 Tbs of butter and it was still knock your pants off hot. This coming from a girl who dips her fries in straight Tobasco hot sauce rather than ketchup. I felt bad because my mom could not eat it. So maybe hold the sauce and let people apply on their own.

I served it with bacon Brussel Sprouts and sweet potato fries. Will definitely make again, just for a different audience. Hi Elizabeth! I am so glad you liked this recipe! Yes, it is super spicy, but just how my family likes it haha! Thank you so much for trying it! Hi David! I am so sorry this did not work well for you. Are there any questions I can help you with if you decide to try it again?

I hope you enjoy some other recipes on my blog!! Made these the other day — super glad that I did!! The flavor was even better the next day with the sauce soaked in! Seriously so good. Any tricks to getting the crumbs to stick better? When I pulled them out of the oven, some parts were falling off from the moisture the chicken let out. Another incredible recipe! I loved the amount of heat but would warn people to lessen amt of cayenne if sensitive.

I made it with a Mac n cheese side. Needless to say the significant other was very happy. Will be making again soon. Thank you!!! Made this last night and it was amazing! Easy to make it gluten free by using GF corn flakes and GF flour. Thanks so much, your site is our new Go-To for tasty recipes!

Thank you for sharing recipes and inspiring me to try new things. I did try the Oven Fried Hot Honey Chicken tonight and it was delicious but I had a problem with the sauce separating. I tried it twice, thought I may have over heated the first time. Do you have any suggestions or is that normal.

I would recommend starting with the smallest amount of cayenne. We love spicy, and it is def spicy. Will make again! Hey Tam! The sauce naturally separates as it cools. Just give it a stir before using and that does the trick. So glad love this recipe! I made the recipe with 8 boneless skinless chicken Breast, arrowhead stoneground whole wheat flour, fresh thyme chopped fine and organic honey corn flakes 3 cups and organic corn flakes 3 cups.

I used the food processor and I marinated the chicken in a thick Calders Brand in a glass jar buttermilk with kosher salt. The buttermilk over the chicken was thick and perfect. I took chicken out of buttermilk and coated with cornflakes mixture and placed on a baking sheet. I put some extra virgin olive oil on top lightly. I doubled the honey sauce but only put 2 teaspoons cayenne pepper which was hot but had a good balance. I doubled the recipe. I added the glaze when it came out of the oven. The house smells insane. Thank You! Michelle Saroki. This recipe is super easy, and really good.

I dropped the cayenne down to 1 tsp I have 4 kids under 6 and it was still quite spicy. This was fantastic! Will definitely be making again! Half Baked Harvest is my go-to and this is one of my all time favorites! A perfect recipe! Absolute new favorite recipe. Paired with some garlic mashed potatoes and roasted asparagus. We cannot get enough!

If you have any of the honey butter left drizzle it on popcorn along with a bit of lime juice for some mind blowing popcorn. I immediately found your site and since then have made at least 20 of your recipes. I have three young kids and everything I have made from your site appeals to all of them — which in itself is a miracle! I love your seasonal approach and mix of traditional with a twist, all the while having amazing flavors and contrast.

I made two batches of the hot honey topping, one with spice and one dialed back for my kids. I am so glad you found my blog and have been loving my recipes! I have a huge family as well, so I always try to create recipes that will feed them all haha! Thank you Kate! This is a good recipe. I used boneless, skinless thighs and breasts. The misread was on me. I plan to try again with a couple modifications. Thanks for sharing this recipe! Do you have recommendations on side dishes for this? Hi Tobey! That is longer than I would have, haha!

I personally love to do mixed vegetables and rice or potatoes! Honestly, mac and cheese sounds amazing as well! I will leave some links below for you! So delicious! I come back to this again and again because it is easy and sooo good! The kids eat it without the hot honey, and the adults slather it on. Thanks for the great recipe! I hate when people make tons of changes then leave bad reviews.

I did make 2 minor changes. I was so excited to try this because of the good ratings. But we made it tonight and the sauce was remarkablely bad. The Cayenne pepper really overpowered it. No sweetness, just a hit of spicy blandness. Hi Bethany! I am so sorry to hear that. Are there any questions I could help with? I hope you love some other recipes on my blog! We LOVE this dish! So easy and delicious. Any tips on the hot honey? HI there! I am so glad you love this recipe!

Hi, any particular reason you used wheat flour and can this be substituted for normal, white flour? Hi Anthea! I just like wheat flour, but all-purpose flour will work great! You are so sweet!! I would love to try this recipe- but I have a dairy allergy- what can I substitute for the buttermilk? Hi Deena! I recommend using canned full fat coconut milk.

Very easy to make and absolutely delicious! My picky toddler asked for seconds so I will be making this again! I forgot to take a photo! So sorry! But this was seriously amazing and easy!

I made a combination of breast tenderloins and thighs. Both came out perfectly and the hot honey is to die for! You have a follower for life! The flavor was really great, and it was pretty easy!! I made this for dinner tonight and it was incredible! I love this and so does my family so I have made it several times. The first few times the sauce was great.

Sounds like you might just be over boiling the sauce. I know you published this recipe last year, but I only just recently tried it and it is so, so good!! The recipe is simple and the flavors are really unique. By FAR my favorite chicken recipe ever! I try to live simply, eat seasonally, and cook with whole foods.

My hope is to inspire a love for amazing food, as well as the courage to try something new! Whether you need to get dinner on the table for your family tonight or are planning your next get-together with friends, Half Baked Harvest Cookbook has your new favorite recipe. Prep Time 15 minutes. Cook Time 30 minutes. Total Time 45 minutes. Servings 6 servings. Calories kcal. Ingredients 2 pounds boneless chicken breasts or thighs you can use skin on or off, but I used skin off 1 cup buttermilk 2 teaspoons kosher salt 3 cups finely crushed corn flakes 3 tablespoons whole wheat flour 1 tablespoon chopped fresh thyme extra virgin olive oil, for brushing.

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Doing good is not just no being bad but intentionally creating more good in the workplace and especially in others. Tjan begins a discussion by trying to define good and to build a framework and language to talk about what good is. Truth: A mindset of humility that makes you teachable. Self-awareness and integrity between your thoughts and actions based on that self-awareness. Compassion: An open mind that without bias allows you to understand the actions of others. To practice empathy and act on that empathy with a generous spirit that gives people what they need.

Wholeness: Involves gratitude for the people around you that leads to an outgoing concern for others. Caring and nurturing the growth of others. Having the respect to fulfil your obligations to yourself and others and acting with a degree of wisdom. Knowing what is important. As leaders this is easier said than done. Daily we face tensions that have to managed as we try to implement our ideals real.

Tjan lists five core tensions :. Pragmatism versus Idealism Our ambitious goals versus reality. Neither one is good or bad. They are a productive tension. Character is a long-term investment. Good people grow by continually seeking to improve themselves and help others to become fuller versions of themselves. While good people value competency, they place a premium on character and values. They commit beyond competency to character and values of truth, compassion, and wholeness. Good people are realists and find the balance between competing priorities and tensions.

Learn to balance the tensions that exist in leadership. These five things are the Good People Mantra. They are five promises. As leaders we need to break from our role as leader to follower and relate to others human to human. Goodness come from building it in yourself and inspiring it in others. Getting some time for yourself is a challenge. But if we are going to lead effectively, we need white space.

We need solitude. I know none of us have any extra time, but there is overwhelming evidence that taking a time-out to simply think is foundational to your success. Raymond Kethledge and Michael Erwin explore some solid reasons why you must make the time to think in Lead Yourself First. Clarity is about what is true. What is signal and what is noise? Solitude facilitates that distillation process. It helps you to eliminate or deliberately deemphasize all distractions. That alone will help you to make the time to think.

Clarity and focus go hand-in-hand. That kind of focused attention is often best done alone. Intuition complements analytical thought. Clarity is important for decision-making but it is also critical for understanding who you are—strengths and weaknesses. It helps to connect you with your core values and understand your place from that perspective. Solitude opens the path to creativity. People make such an effort to copy what other people do, because we have so much access to information.

And people copy them. Creativity is doing something differently than the norm. Solitude allows us to get away from the inertia of our environment and connect to new possibilities. Emotional Balance Emotional balance requires you to respond rather than react. General James Mattis finds a lack of reflection the single biggest problem facing leaders.

Finds himself merely blown from one thing to another. But the leader who steps outside events is a leader who can change them. Solitude allows you to reflect on what is making you emotional and provide clarity on the issue. Often what you are emotional about is more of a distraction than an issue.

Instead of allowing our emotions to adversely affect our leadership, it is wise to move away and deal with them in private. Our emotions will find an outlet somewhere. And that is best alone than in decisions made through unfiltered emotions that affect those around us. Solitude allows you to slow down and be clear and firmly convicted of your values and beliefs. When those criticisms come along that are design to enforce conformity, it is easier to weather the storm when you know that what you are doing is the right thing to do for the right reasons.

It is the power to rise above. Reclaiming Solitude. I could chart the ups and downs of my quality of life personally and professionally and the amount of time I spend in solitude. We are continuously bombarded by pressures— both personal and social —not to stop and reflect but if we lose our solitude, we will lose who we are.

It can be a closed room, the library, a park bench, and even a waiting room. We have a responsibility to seek out periods of solitude. We owe it to ourselves and those we lead. And where we find that disconnect we limit or even derail our leadership potential. In The Leadership Gap , Lolly Daskal addresses this gap—what it is, why it happens, and what we can do about it. The gap is always there but at some point, it comes the surface to sabotage us. The problem is that one day, suddenly, what once worked so well to propel their rise stops working. And the very same traits that had worked for them actually start working against them.

It is at this point that we need to begin asking ourselves some questions. And when there is that gap between how we want to be perceived and how we are actually being perceived, we need to take action. Either way, an understanding of what drives can give us the insight we need to avoid our leadership gaps. Daskal invites us to look at who we are being and the instincts that drive our behaviors.

She has developed seven leadership archetypes to help us gain some clarity as to what drives our beliefs and therefore our behaviors. The Seven Archetypes. The Rebel who is driven by confidence. The gap archetype is The Imposter who is so insecure they play havoc with their mind because they have self-doubt. They undermine their leadership thus keeping them from achieving greatness. The Explorer who is fueled by intuition. The gap archetype is The Exploiter who manipulates every chance they get just so you will not know how powerless they really feel. The tendency for the Explorer is to use their intuition to manipulate others to gain control.

The Truth Teller who embraces candor. The gap archetype is The Deceiver who is suspicious about everyone because they cannot trust themselves to speak the truth. Discovering the truth and then speaking up for what is right is never easy but when we find we have been deceived, we can become paranoid and suspicious of others undermining our influence. We can become a kind of victim that will not speak up when we need to because of our paranoia.

The Hero who embodies courage. The gap archetype is The Bystander who is too fearful to be brave, too conservative to take a risk, and too cautious to take a stand. Once enabled by courage, they are now sidelined by fear. We are not really afraid of losing everything—we are afraid of what will happen when we have nothing. The Inventor who is brimming with integrity. Everything in business, leadership, and success is founded on the virtue of integrity—it is the force that leads the way.

The gap archetype is The Destroyer who is morally corrupt. While an Inventor puts their personal values into practice, if those values become corrupted, usually by forces such as ego, personal gain, or anger, they destroy the organization from within. The Destroyer advocates cutting corners, quick fixes and compromising quality and standards. The Navigator who trusts and is trusted as they guide people to where they need to go.

The gap archetype is The Fixer who a chronic rescuer no one trusts They want to help too much, fix too much and rescue too much. They inspire trust. But their ability and confidence to know where to go and become an arrogance that attempts to control others—to do for others what they need to be doing themselves. The Knight for whom loyalty is everything and will stand beside you and will serve you before they serve themselves. The gap archetype is The Mercenary who is self -serving and put their own needs before those of the team, the business or the organization.

Often the transition from serving to self-serving is subtle. Only after unfaithfulness shapes itself does the self-serving attitude emerge in a way it can be detected and deciphered. Daskal reminds us that understanding our weaknesses is our greatest strength. From these seven archetypes, we can see how each has powerful abilities and hidden impediments.

By knowing the gaps we can get into we can better use our strengths to achieve our own leadership greatness. Daskal explains each of these archetypes in detail and importantly how we avoid these gaps. She describes what the positive looks like and what the negative looks like with examples for each. The Leadership Gap provides the antidote for leading on autopilot. Daskal provides insight into our behaviors and beliefs that can if not managed properly can derail even the most talented and successful leaders. Confronting and avoiding our leadership gaps is the key to attaining long-term leadership success.

Civility costs nothing, and buys everything. Incivility impacts our health and performance. Incivility is contagious. Incivility sneaks into your subconscious. Civility starts with a few basic behaviors and it grows from there. Simple things like saying please and thank you make a difference in how we are perceived by others and the influence we have on them. Warmth is the pathway to influence. Other basic behaviors include acknowledging people and listening. They signal caring, commitment and connection. Show respect for others by sharing resources, the limelight, and positive feedback.

Meanwhile, low-performing teams share twice as much negative feedback than average teams. Porath advises you to avoid the temptation to get even. The best advice has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you. How will you choose to interpret it? Here are a few of her thoughts:. What are you going to make this mean? How you interpret the situation is crucial. How much are you going to let someone pull you down?

What useful lessons might there be for you in the situation? Science reveals that about 50m percent of our happiness is based on brain wiring; 40 percent is owed to how we interpret and respond to what happens to us, and 10 percent is driven by our circumstances. In large part, you really do get to decide how you interpret incivility, the meaning you assign to it, and the stories you tell yourself.

You also get to control whether it makes you feel bad or not. Everyone would agree that we should be civil and we recoil when we see others engaged in it, yet incivility has become more commonplace. And it costs us all. Uncivil behavior does not generate greater influence no matter how loud you are. Most leadership failures can be attributed to abrasive or arrogant approaches to others. Uncivil leaders eventually undermine their own potential. Are you civil? Porath offers a quick civility assessment online.

Paul Meshanko has highlighted the importance of demonstrating respect in all of our interactions in The Respect Effect. The desired result is that those we interact with will feel valued in some way. He offers 12 Ways of thinking and behaving around others:. What we say is important but how we say it can make or break the communication. Develop Curiosity About the Perspectives of Others. When this happens, it becomes easier to communicate respect to others, even if we disagree with them.

Assume that Everyone is Smart About Something. The only difference is that we are all smart through different histories and life experiences. Look for Opportunities to Connect with and Support Others. When we demonstrate a willingness to move away from our immediate agenda and search for positions of agreement first, it makes working through the actual differences a bit easier. When You Disagree, Explain Why.

We have an obligation to others to be truthful with our perspectives and points of view. When done with civility, tact, and room for counterarguments, sharing our perspectives leads to the best decisions and optimal results. Look for Opportunities to Grow, Stretch, and Change. Learn to Be Wrong on Occasion. This means that our feeling of certainty about something is nothing more than a strong emotion.

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The stronger the emotion, the more likely we are to develop blind spots around it. It takes a shift in focus away from what we need to what others need. With rare exception, when we meet people who greet us with a smile, they are sending us important information about heir intentions. Meshanko concludes with 3 key ingredients to improving your ability to demonstrate respect for others:. Once we understand the value proposition respect offers, that insight can provide us with patience, courage, and creativity.

Patience permits us to maintain our composure and respectful demeanor when others are not acting at their best. Courage enables us to candidly challenge disrespectful behavior and actions directed toward others. Creativity allows us to see points of connection, even in the midst of conflict. When we bring these qualities online and into our work interactions, everyone benefits, including our peers, customers, vendors, and ultimately, our shareholders.

So if we want to have lasting change, the beginning point has to be our thinking. When we look at our behavior we have to understand that there is a thought going on in our heads that is tripping us up. And we have to change that first. One right thought can correct a lot of bad behavior.

As human beings, we latch on to certain ideas and assumptions and they blind us from seeing other options and responses to what life throws at us. We get ideas in our head that can literally block us from seeing other perspectives. We have to unlearn some behaviors and then learn and put into practice the new thinking and resulting behaviors. And it just takes time. We have to wake up every day and know that we have a tendency—not just because of our life experiences, but also because of the way that we have chosen to respond to them—to repeat a certain set of behaviors over and over again.

And learn from it. And then go to work on the thinking behind the behaviors we want to change. There will always be drama. Complaints, excuses, and regrets only serve to keep the drama alive. So, says Chism, when you experience drama you need to ask yourself three questions:. Too often this is where we get stuck. Our focus has shifted because we became confused about our number one priority. Sometimes we create drama because we want something on our terms. Chism relates a clarifying example of this with the recently divorced Joe who is having visitation issues with his ex-wife Patty.

Yes, you can fight that battle, if winning a battle is what you want. Are you willing to drive to Illinois several times a year and spend quality time with your kids, even if Patty does nothing more than cooperate? Joe will struggle if that is his motive or intention. If he is able to let go of distractions and not get stuck on the rocks that lie between him and his final goal.

Do you see that while this kind of clarity may not change all the drama, it will give you peace and free up your energy for more productive endeavors? This kind of dynamic plays out every day in our business and personal lives. When we are not clear about what we want, what our values are, what we are committed to, it is easy to lose our focus, to drift off course. Chism has written a good-natured and practical book that will change your thinking and in the process help you to control the drama in both your personal and professional life.

Chism suggests asking the following questions:. What are my top 10 principle-based values? What areas of my life or business are in the fog? What are some of the distractions that take me off course? Where do I get stuck? Where can I improve as a leader? What drama do I see on a daily basis in the workplace? What drama do I see in my personal life? Where am I avoiding or procrastinating? It has always been a vital ingredient to success, but it becomes critical in the age of the knowledge worker. He emphasizes a focus on reflecting in real-time—in the present—in order to align both our intentions and behaviors so that we might bring about the results we seek.

Marshall Goldsmith , executive educator and coach:. I believe that the process of reflection is more important today than ever before. I also believe that it is more challenging. We live in the age of the knowledge worker. Peter Drucker defined knowledge workers as 'people who know more about what they are doing than their boss'.

Knowledge workers need to think and reflect. They have to listen and learn. They cannot just 'do what they are told', since their managers know less than they do about what they are doing. On the other hand, we live in a world of constant stimulus. Our minds are barraged by media of all forms.

Cell phones, emails, text messages, and personal computers have reduced our already-limited attention spans. One of the great challenges for the knowledge worker of the future is finding the time to think - in a world that is screaming at you to act. Where I think my work is a bit different is that I focus on what a leader is doing right now as it is happening——reflection and awareness in the moment.

Most people's immediate action will very likely be an automatic non-conscious process that they're not aware of. Throw in a little stress and emotional reactivity and people find themselves doing and saying things that are destructive to themselves, others, and their goals without understanding why nor knowing what to do about it. However, we have a worldview that focuses largely on conscious processing, we think that having the answer makes change automatically happen. We assume that just because Ruth knows what she does, she will change it.

Change happens in the choices we make right now. So my interest is in, how you actually retrain the brain by interrupting that automatic habit and doing something differently. You may have to do it over and over again but at some point, the rewiring function will happen. I give people a model of this process from the triggering moment of contact to the final result. All along there are intervention points. Of course, the earlier you can intervene, the better. Not everyone can interrupt the process early on, but what I emphasize is that you just need to interrupt it somewhere.

And the more practiced one gets at it, the earlier you can see what is happening. You always start with the repeated unwanted result. The next step is to build awareness of when and how that habit plays out. What is it I do that might push back too hard, that gets me in trouble? What is she feeling in the body? What emotions are arising? What are the stories in her head? Directing her attention to her internal experience creates the awareness of the non-conscious habit. She now has the opportunity to step outside all those automatic reactions and make a different, more conscious choice.

Again, change happens in the choices we make right now. Sabbaticals lead to people stepping back to see their work and creativity through a different lens. He also gives insight into gaining perspective through reflection. Mark Sanborn talks about the essential nature of making time to think so that we might learn and gain insight from our experiences. He lists some areas we should be thinking about so that we might get the most out of our time reflecting.

James Strock , speaker, consultant and entrepreneur:. T here is nothing more important—or more easily overlooked—than making time for disciplined reflection. Indeed, it should be scheduled—and protected and enforced—with the utmost seriousness. Religious traditions include notions of a Sabbath, a day of rest and reflection. Winston Churchill was active as a painter, speaker, historian, and commentator on current events. Many enterprises—from Google and GE to sports teams—encourage regular meditation or related mental exercises. To the extent each day can be seen as a sort of lifetime in itself, meditation or prayer can also be viewed as a sabbatical of sorts.

In my personal experience, travel can be invaluable. You may see familiar notions with new eyes. In the 21st century, information and data are often ubiquitous. The value added by leaders—either in high positions or not—increasingly arises from those invaluable intangibles: judgment and insight. Both of those are more likely to be found with disciplined reflection. Mark Sanborn , author and speaker:. S omeone once said if we don't slow down occasionally nothing good can ever catch us. I think that sentiment applies to the good that can come out of reflection.

One of the reasons we don't learn—truly internalize lessons—and keep making similar mistakes is that we don't pause long enough to gain any insights. Most of the busy and successful professionals I work with—and myself included—can go for long periods of time without actively thinking. We reactively think—response to questions, problems, opportunities, etc.

I frequently say that nobody has time for anything; we make time for what is important. So often we live life by default and let circumstance and the demands of others determine how we spend our time. I believe we need to make time for reflection. We make time when we priorities, eliminate and adjust our schedules. What they are accomplishing versus how busy they are. What they have learned. Leaders need to extract lessons from both the positive and negative things that happen. How they are feeling. Leaders can't divorce their intellect from their emotions and succeed over the long run.

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Their vision of the future, for their organizations, those they lead and themselves. And for leaders who believe in the spiritual realm, as I do, that is a critical area for reflection prayer and meditation in the Christian tradition I follow. Reflection usually requires "getting away" whether that requires a physical relocation to a peaceful thinking spot or simply blocking time to avoid interruptions. And finally, I think those leaders who value reflection and benefit most from it make it a regular part of their schedules.

There is a hierarchy of communication we all practice, in which electronic and immediate data responses reign far above in-person and more time-intensive, dialogue-driven interaction. The trade-off is easy to make: we gain speed, immediate connection, and reactions while giving up richer contexts that emerge only when we take time to think. There are times when the arrival of each new electronic message or data-driven distraction has become a digital proxy for the sound of a bell once used by a doctor named Pavlov.

In part two of this series, Tom Asacker philosophizes about the nature of reflection. His insights help us to understand that until we start to see our connection to reality, core changes rarely happen. Have we given the proper consideration to the impact of what we do? Then, Brian Orchard emphasizes the need to slow down enough to absorb what we are experiencing.

He talks about the need to take a second look to gain understanding and the importance of getting counsel in decision making. Tom Asacker , author, speaker and professional catalyst:. To an outsider, it may look like idleness. Our work should be designed to move us forward, toward a worthy ideal, meaning, and a better life. But in order to get there, we must occasionally pause from its narcotic effect and critically evaluate its impact on our happiness and well-being, and its resulting influence on our community and environment. We must sit quietly and reflect.

Reflection is not daydreaming. Is this the best that I can do? Will people be advanced by my efforts? Will my children be proud of my actions? Yes, there is boldness in action. But we must follow action with quiet reflection for that boldness to remain relevant and vibrant. Imaginative reflection breaks the powerful grasp of inertia—the desire to stay the course regardless of the impact on our lives—and moves us courageously towards our higher potential.

Brian Orchard, pastor:. Mentally, we're in perpetual locomotion. From my experience as a minister, I have found that an issue is rarely understood well by the first exposure to it. Our first response is usually weighted by whoever presented the issue. It takes time and thought to slowly come to a more complete understanding.

The value of reflection in this case allows for a deeper understanding to be obtained by thinking about the issue and allowing it to be seen from a number of angles. There are two biblical principles that to me, support reflection.

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The second is simply the whole idea of seeking counsel. This must mean a certain amount of reflection and counsel has a strong bearing on decision making. Devaluing reflection while expecting constant growth and innovation is nonsensical. Are we spending our time on the right issues? Are we delegating issues we should not be working on that could be better dealt with more locally in the organization? Kotter also stresses its importance as a continual learning tool.

John Baldoni urges us to make the time to reflect to gain perspective. He reframes reflection as an action step, not a passive process. John Kotter , Harvard professor, author and consultant:. I n a world that is moving faster and faster, and changing more and in larger leaps, learning becomes a gigantic issue. Doing what you know is not enough. And learning cannot come in a classroom once every 2 years. Learning has to be an ongoing process, literally all the time.

People learn in many ways. Reading really good books can help. Talking to really good people can help. I did X. It produced Z. But is Z what we really need? And why did X create Z?

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And what were the other alternatives? And can I find others in books, discussions, HBS that tried those other alternatives? Obviously, self awareness makes this easier. One can be both action oriented and reflective. Action oriented means when you know what to do and you do it. Not next quarter. Correctable too. And since leaders have the capacity to help or hurt us all a great deal, everything I have said here is very important in their case. John Baldoni , leadership consultant, coach, author and speaker:.

R eflection is a powerful tool for leaders, and one that is much underused. The chief reason is perceived lack of time. I remember asking the late Skip LeFauvre, the man who ran Saturn, how he found time for it. He said, "Put it on your schedule. Reflection is a means of gaining perspective.

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It challenges you to think where you are now and where you might want to go. How to get there is a good thing to consider during reflection. Reflection may be perceived as a passive process, i. In reality, reflection is an action step. You are thinking. That can be rigorous in its methodology. Reflection can also come through the writing process, i. Thinking of reflection as an active process makes it more palatable to leaders who by nature are doers; they like to be engaged in activities. Reflection can be one of them. While reflection seems to have no place in a competitive business environment, it is where meaning is created, behaviors are regulated, values are refined, assumptions are challenged, intuition is accessed, and where we learn about who we are.

Some of the greatest barriers to getting the results we want lie within us. Growth happens when we stop repeating our habitual patterns and behaviors and begin to see things in a new way and in the process, discover the power to create the results we want. The best decisions, insights, ideas, and outcomes result when we take sufficient time to think and reflect….

Only by carving out think time and reflection can we actually understand, in an entirely different context, the actions we take. It forces the consideration of core significant and pending decisions, outside of cursory overviews and immediate response…. Reflection is the deliberate act of stepping back from daily habits and routines without looming and immediate deadline pressures , either alone or within small and sequestered groups.

Even if we can agree on the value of think time, we still regard it as a luxury. It is at the core of what allows a business to thrive. Reflection in effect expands our perspectives and thus reveals to us more options and that gets to the heart of what leadership is all about. The point is to make the unseen seen so we can act on it. We wind up shuttered in our ability to think about possibilities. Recognizing the need for reflection and actually doing it are two different things. Reflection is a discipline. Forrester suggests that we set time aside for a meeting with oneself.

The power of reflection lies in how we choose to use that time and what structure we bring to the fleeting disjointed moments we are afforded. Some organizations he has studied have adopted a no internal e-mail Friday policy and other ways to temporarily disconnect from technology.

Although these ideas may not work for you, the point is made so that you might consider the impact these technologies are having on the productivity and well-being of your staff. There is always one more e-mail and it will control you if you let it. Leaders need to understand and demonstrate by example that reflection—taking time to consider—is not wasted time. Reflection is the first step in coming to understand how we are connected to our outcomes.

Until we see the relationship between the two, we cannot make deep, lasting change and bring thoughtful behaviors to bear on the situations we find ourselves in. Our thinking creates our reality. If we do not reflect on our thinking we stand to miss our connection to the whole. Consider offers a way to break the pattern of continuous partial attention that seems to be our default position in this technological age.

It helps to disrupt the habitual thinking that drowns out the reflective, critical thinking we need to become fully present and effective. It is the bedrock of successful leadership and living. Upcoming: I asked some leading minds about the discipline of reflection. Grace is foundational to service. Baldoni writes: Love, sacrifice, truth, and courage are virtues made actionable by grace. To help us better understand grace and to help us intentionally apply it in our leadership, Baldoni explores grace from five perspectives with this acronym : G is for Generosity : the will to do something for others.

Generosity Gracious people give of themselves. Respect Self-awareness opens the door to respect for others. Action Grace is intentional. Compassion Gracious people have the capacity to forgive and show mercy. How will you introduce pause into your leadership? STOP To start, you must stop. CUT Eliminate : Every yes contains a no. Do You Need an Attitude Adjustment? To some, this comes naturally. Others must constantly work on it.

Since my earliest memory, I have had the sense that anything worth doing… worth pursuing… must be passionately pursued. A positive attitude naturally follows.