This took almost 10 years. Each time a trait was observed to fluctuate too much, psychologists threw it out. What was left in the s was five stable traits: extraversion, openness to new experience, agreeableness, conscientiousness, and neuroticism. These five categories were deemed to be able to explain all human behavior.
But it would be another 20 years before they had sufficient research and data to back up this claim. By the s, we had data and everyone threw a party. Well… the extraverts threw a party. And then people high in neuroticism got really anxious and fussed about what to wear. The point is, these five traits have since become known as the Big Five Personality Traits, and they are one of the most established and scientifically-driven measurements in the field of psychology.
The Big Five are relatively stable over time. They partially determine who you are, the choices you make, and how well you do in life. On average, extraverts experience more positive emotions, have wider social networks, and, likely as a result, make more money.
Why Being an Asshole Can Be a Valuable Life Skill
People who are conscientious are healthier and live longer, probably because they wash their hands after they piss. People with high levels of neuroticism struggle emotionally and are more likely to lose jobs, get divorced, and become depressed. People who are more open to experience tend to be creative, risk-taking, and political liberals.
People who are low in openness to experience tend to be politically conservative and bad at hosting orgies. But out of all of the Big Five Personality Traits, one of the five stands above them all in determining professional success: agreeableness. Or rather, a lack of agreeableness. In fact, I believe the world needs its fair share of assholes. And that being an asshole is a valuable life skill.
That is, one side is totally willing to be disliked and the other is not. Run this situation millions of times over the course of multiple decades and you end up in a situation where assholes run the world. No surprise. The deal still gets done, but that deal will be sub-optimal because neither side pushed to the full extent of their capabilities.
Therefore, a lot of value will be lost in the process. The third situation is when two assholes come to a business negotiation. Both sides are totally willing to be disliked. And not only will they push for everything they need for the deal to be advantageous for them, but they will push even further. They will consciously antagonize the other side because they understand that antagonism wears people down and makes them capitulate more easily.
Strangely, this really, really unpleasant circumstance is the one that will produce the most optimal result. Both sides will likely push the deal so far that no one ends up happy with it. Both sides will feel like they lost but the resulting agreement will likely produce better results for both sides because they left no stone unturned in pursuing what is best for themselves.
So, yes, assholes run the world. And ever tried to break up with someone while not hurting their feelings? So most non-assholes just end up staying in bad relationships for way longer than they should. Luckiest Girl Alive.
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Workplace jerks are a serious problem. They trigger anxiety, depression, sleep problems, high blood pressure, and poor relationships with their families and partners. And I must be honest. There were days I hated going into the office. So after successfully dealing with assholes I used tip number two below , and interviewing Robert Sutton , I want to share three practical tips with you that can prevent a lot of stress. Is someone having a bad day? Relationship issues? All those things play a role in our mood. Letting a bad episode slide is okay.
Just by understanding basic human psychology will make you a relaxed human being. Too often, we take things too personal and are quick to judge. I agree.